To really be honest, I've only had one true relationship in my life that mattered to me and it was my marriage. The girl I dated for about 3 months from September-November really wasn't more than a rebound chick for me. I've gone on dates since her since I finally felt that I was ready to date and put myself out there now that I had gotten my rebound chick out of the way. For the most part, the dates I've been on have been really good. I've met interesting women who actually stimulate me quite a bit and match me on an intellectual level. That was until the beginning of this month, when I met "her".
I have two things that are a must for me to be in any relationship with anyone and they are:
You must accept me for me. No exceptions.
Be honest. If it isn't going to work out, let me know.
I think that those two lead to many other things that are necessary for a relationship such as trust, honesty, communication, physical attractiveness and so on. I believe without those, relationships will never work. It's part of what doomed my marriage.
I met "her" on EHarmony. I've heard of friends having some luck with the site, so I figured what do I have to lose. We went through the process, exchanged IM ID's and just started talking. We spent quite a few nights up until 2-3AM just chatting, which for me is unheard of since I am usually in bed at a decent hour and get up early. We finally decided that when she returned from her business trip, we'd meet up for dinner.
So between the time we made plans to meet and the actual "date", we talked a bunch more. Now going into this date, I've got a better feeling, but I'm nervous as shit. I mean, even just talking every night to her, she seems like a really great girl who I'm really interested in getting to know more. So I got there early and waited for her outside after putting our name on the list for dinner. She pulled up, met me outside and we proceeded to the bar to wait for our table. We talked pretty much openly about everything. If I didn't have to work that night at 1AM, we probably would have hung out all night talking. We parted ways around 1AM and I went to work.
Since that first date, we've been on more dates and now, we've entered that "relationship". I've honestly been happy with what my life has become before meeting her and what I am doing with it. I've actually never been happier. Now however, my happiness is an entirely different level. She brings out so much more in me everytime we're together. She really makes me feel wanted, which is something I haven't felt in a long time and makes me feel like I'm worth being with.
Looking back to the skepticism about EHarmony and the way it matches people, I had my doubts. The other night, we looked at the personality profiles, which are created based on the long drawn out questionaire that you fill out. I guess the system does work because our personalities are very similar, on top of the interests that we both have as well.
Maybe it's too good to be true, I don't know. But i do know that this relationship has been nothing but a big positive in my life right now and it just makes the rest of it so much better.